Is your family time suffering because you are too busy? When you overschedule your kids and are trying to fit in too much, you will come up with a big mess. I have some friends that have 3 or 4 kids and some of them are involved in more than one activity. When you add school, church, sports and any extra commitments like music or theatre you could potentially be busy almost every night. Have you ever seen one parent go one direction with one child and the other parent has to take another one to a different activity? Do they look a little stressed? What about when you are a single parent trying to juggle everything? What happens if the parents put their child on a traveling sports team? The weekends will be shot and it can be very expensive. If your child loves a certain sport would a recreation team fit in better and still let them be involved?
WHAT ARE THE SOURCES OF YOUR GAP?
Is your schedule so busy you don’t have any free time and you are always rushing? I know how I feel when I’m always in a hurry and never take time to slow down. It is not fun for me or my family…
Are you letting your children decide your calendar? Have you asked them which activity is the most important to them and either postpone some of the others or just take them off the schedule? When kids are used to being so busy they may not like it when you do this but trust me they will be excited to have a little more down time.
Are you not making good use of the time you have? When you look at your calendar are there things that can be tweaked to make your time more productive? For example if you need to run errands every week have you tried to group them together on 1 or 2 days instead of stretching them out 3 or 4 and wasting time and gas?
There is something about being in the same house with your kids that will give them a chance to relax more. Even if they are upstairs in their room and you just stop in to say hi and ask how things are going they will start to enjoy talking to you. There is no substitute for being around to talk. So many times we try to fit our conversations with our family around our schedule. What would happen if we would try to be more available and give them more chances to connect with us?
1.Make a point of eating together as a family again at least a couple times a week and build from there. Turn the tv off and find out how things are going. If you haven’t done this for a while, the first couple meals might be a little quiet but the kids will catch on and be more talkative.
2.Find a church to attend together. Don’t use the excuse about “Sunday is my only day off” and I just want to sleep in. I love going to church with my family and connecting with other people. Remember we are setting the foundation for our kids and need to set an example. I personally love trying to keep Sundays pretty free so we can all rest a little bit after church after working hard all week and recharge our batteries.
3.Have a meeting with your family and decide together which activities can come off your schedule to give you more free time together.
If you would like some help finding out more about how you can put your family first, I would love to schedule a free telephone call. Send me a message and I will get back to you.